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- Sat Feb 12, 2000 1:43 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Managing the Verbal Attack Patterns
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2935
Managing the Verbal Attack Patterns
The attack you asked about was (from a boss), "WHY are YOU LATE every single morning??! WHY can't you get here on TIME once in a while??!" It's two VAPs in a row -- two examples of the same pattern. The open attack (the bait) in the first one is the presupposition that you're late every mo...
- Sat Feb 12, 2000 5:06 am
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Diffusing escalating symmetry
- Replies: 2
- Views: 3524
Diffusing escalating symmetry
I don't want you to think that I'm ignoring your questions -- that's not my intention. I think that if you check some of the other threads in this forum you'll find that I've been posting answers which are directly relevant to the questions you've asked. Please let me know if you disagree.
Suzette
Suzette
- Sat Feb 05, 2000 1:44 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Verbal Self Defense!!
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2716
Verbal Self Defense!!
It seems to me that the answers I've posted this morning (February 5th) to the other questions on the VSD forum probably apply to this question as well. I'm not going to add anything more at this time, therefore; I'll watch what you have to say over the coming week, and will welcome your questions a...
- Sat Feb 05, 2000 1:41 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Detect, Defuse, and Defend
- Replies: 49
- Views: 25053
Detect, Defuse, and Defend
I have to do a preliminary warble here, because the message brings in an array of items that can't all be addressed at once. I don't mean to ignore parts of the question -- just to postpone them, so that there can be some clarity. Let me get the Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) thing out of the way...
- Sat Feb 05, 2000 1:39 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: How do we communicate Martial Art issues
- Replies: 13
- Views: 9872
How do we communicate Martial Art issues
The question was: "Is it possible to define commonly-used martial arts terms in a way that will allow us all to discuss specific and unique aspects of a style without getting into a religious-type argument?" Followed by the accurate observation from another respondent that these "reli...
- Sat Feb 05, 2000 1:35 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Ignorance is Bliss
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3441
Ignorance is Bliss
It's not the case that people who come to me as students or clients always do so because they're aware that others are verbally attacking them. Some do, of course, and begin their relationship with me by saying that verbal abuse is making their lives miserable -- but that's by no means universal. A ...
- Fri Feb 04, 2000 2:01 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: How do we communicate Martial Art issues
- Replies: 13
- Views: 9872
How do we communicate Martial Art issues
I've been dropping by for a few minutes each day to get a feeling for where this forum is headed -- getting my feet wet, as it were. I'm glad to see this thread started, but warn you that it's one of the hardest subject you could possibly take up. I'll be back tomorrow with answers to the questions,...
- Tue Feb 01, 2000 2:18 pm
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Linguistic Disadvantaged???
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4782
Linguistic Disadvantaged???
I don't want to belabor this topic, since the forum is about verbal self-defense rather than about feminism. I'll try to be brief, and then we can move on. I am convinced that all this alleged male/female dichotomy is a red herring, and that the differences we think we perceive are tied not to biolo...
- Tue Feb 01, 2000 5:16 am
- Forum: Verbal Self Defense
- Topic: Linguistic Disadvantaged???
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4782
Linguistic Disadvantaged???
The reference in the letter you quoted is to something called the "muted group" theory. For women (for the moment, let's say that that means women who are fluent speakers of English), it has been proposed that the need to express their thoughts/perceptions in English makes them a muted gro...