This is turning out much better than I could have hoped for (better in the right direction

).
david wrote <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
Finally, some of us have no "ultimate end" -- except death. It's all "process" and the integrity we carry and develop through it.
Way before Bobby McFerron (sorry, not sure of the spelling) wrote the song
Don't worry, be happy!, I was one of his big fans. The fellow is like the Mel Blanc of music. Most of his work is
a cappella, relying on the hand beating his throat or face for percussion and his extrordinary range and control of timbre to create the perception of multiple instruments playing at once. He's one of a kind. In an interview about his work, Bobby talks about process being everything. To be a Bobby McFerron is to eat, breathe, and sleep your work for the sheer joy of it all. Yes, there is rare and innate talent. But Bobby has EXECUTED...
Often when I started large classes back at UVa, a student would want to know about the time and effort necessary to get a black belt. I usually responded by telling them that the folks who settled down and learned to enjoy training were the ones that would succeed. Being too focused on a goal without a love for the tremendous effort involved was a recipe for failure. The paradox was that the folks that
appeared to be least concerned about the end were the ones more likely to achieve it. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
fighting mindset the sine qua non (without which there is nothing) of the highest level of self-defense ability in a street attack
To some extent, yes.
Tony wrote <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
I would deal with each of the above scenarios in the same way, I would first say to myself "fuq it!" then I would say "go". and from that point on, I won't care what happens. So you see, there are only 2 obstacles for me to overcome before I turn into Primordial Man, other people have alot more
and John wrote <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Here is a quick probe which I think can help one get a feeling for where one is on this continuum of innate fighting mindset. Simply ask yourself whether or not when you sparr do you naturally, automatically view it as:
1. turned down real fighting, or
2. turned up tag with fists and feet.
So, in 1. you often find that the level that seems normal to you is considered to be on the boundary of permissible intensity by others, and in 2. you are often puzzled by the beast across from you who doesn't seem to understand that this is just a game.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> Well I am at least comfortable with John describing it as a continuum. Some view it as a dichotomy (You are either a fighter or you are not) and I most definitely do not.
A number of issues come to mind. First of all, is there a difference between a fighter and a violent idiot? I most definitely think so, and frankly I believe there are far too many of the latter in our society. Many of them end up either dead or in prison. Many are the rude among us that are one step away from getting free plastic surgery. And then there is the "appropriate" response. Let's view some of what I put forward. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
What happens when the BG jumps out of the bushes tonight - knife in hand - and asks for your wallet?
In my estimation, the violent idiot ends up getting slashed and possibly killed. Give the jerk the wallet! If you knew anything at all about proper knife fighting, you would know that there would be
very few times (I never say never

) where you would "go there." Stupid and/or untrained fighters end up becoming Darwinian statistics. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
What happens when someone stealthily sticks a gun to your back (or so you think), and asks you to get into a car?
Anyone that understands statistics about "the second crime scene" knows that NOW is probably the time to make a stand. If you are in public, that may be your last chance to save your life. Time to say no and/or fight. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
What happens when you step out of the shower - butt ugly naked with Johnson hanging - and there is a prowler rummaging through your stuff in the nearby bedroom?
A true fighter is always prepared. A true fighter almost never is out of code yellow. The gun (or even a cell phone) is readily available, and not on the other side of the BG. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
What happens when/if your wife slaps you for that nasty comment you might make?
Sadly enough, I know of more than one anecdote of a former member of special forces that ended up in jail because of an "inappropriate" response to this situation. <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote
What happens if you are walking down a sidewalk in your neighborhood, and three teenagers decide they want to mess you up?
OK, here it gets sticky. Overwhelming force? Maybe... How good a fighter are you? How threatened are you? Is it all on or all off? Hmmm... Some people I know are good enough in their fighting skills to "play" with such punks until they got the message - and avoid prison time for wasting the neighborhood kids. This is WAY more than mindset and intensity. This gets to issues of technical ability, strategy, EQ, etc. At least - in my opinion - this is what maximizes the likelihood that the outcome will be COMPLETELY in your favor. The skill sets needed are numerous.
It can be very complex. To be otherwise is to be vulnerable. To hesitate when it is time to go is deadly. To overreact can be just as deadly, or get your fanny thrown in jail. Policemen and other law enforcement officers often go through quite a bit of training to learn (have ingrained) these dose/response concepts.
<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>1. turned down real fighting, or
2. turned up tag with fists and feet.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> More often than not I am a "2". However I learned long ago that there is a beast within. The beast scares me, because it completely takes over. I know there are a few predictable situations I need to avoid because I find it so bloody difficult to control the innate response. And when I squelch the response, I am tortured - sometimes for months.
- Bill
[This message has been edited by Bill Glasheen (edited April 18, 2002).]